Thursday, January 5, 2023
3950-3952: Letting Dad and Mom Go from Lincoln County Watch
By Anna Von Reitz
My
Mother was a brilliant woman and a loyal wife and Mother. She was, in
many, many ways, a rock. But she was not entirely normal or sane; she
had suffered a great deal in her life and had PTSD that regularly got
out of control.
This
led to everything from paranoia to severe bouts of anger and
depression, which she took out on my Sister and I. It also meant that
in order to survive intact, I had to distance myself from my Mother at
an early age, recognize that she had these problems for these reasons,
and -- in a sense, let her go.
I
had to understand the dark place where she was coming from and her
constant efforts to protect me from that darkness, even while discerning
reality in the present moment.
It wasn't easy.
My
Sister never succeeded in separating herself entirely from Mother's
mental damage, and still suffers because she feels that she never had a
mother --- and she wanted and needed one.
Many
people have similar issues with parents -- either because the parents
were damaged by their parents or by poverty hardships, or because of
social attacks (race, creed, color, religion, sex, age), or war,
because
of alcoholism, drug addiction, or all the other reasons there are that
render people unfit, unable, or undesirable as parents.
We can't let our parents' wounds be our wounds.
We can't let the cycle of fear and anger and hatred continue.
The
Mercenary Wars that our country has been constantly embroiled in for
more than a century and a half mean that millions of Americans have been
more or less maimed by loss of friends and family, loss of limbs, loss
of mental integrity, loss of security, loss of peace, loss of trust,
loss of culture, loss of family integrity, loss of moral standards, loss
of a common set of national values, loss of religion.... the list goes
on and on.
And on.
We
are a whole nation of the Walking Wounded. Virtually nobody, including
the successful Draft Dodgers, have escaped unscathed from the horrors
of WWI, WWII, Korea, Vietnam, Gulf I, Gulf II, Afghanistan and all the
hundreds of nameless horrifying incursions into other countries that we
have been goaded and deceived into.
Not
only was my Mother wounded by WWII, but my Father was, too. His life
and his quality of life were greatly truncated by physical injuries
sustained and never compensated. He somehow found the strength to laugh
in the face of a long, terrible death.
Yes, the Greatest Generation may have been the Greatest, but they were also the most wounded.
Most
of my friends' Fathers were not intact emotionally, cold, distant,
violent, competitive, profit-driven, unfeeling, uncaring, critical,
demanding, and amoral, they trampled on their children and their wives
and their mistresses, leading to an explosion in unwed mothers and
abandoned babies.
For
me, my Father's illness meant that from the age of fifteen to
twenty-five, I had to be an active wage-earner and a nurse and a
handyman and a mechanic. I had to put myself through college. I had to
scrub dishes and walk dogs and do all the most menial labor you can
imagine, just scraping by and trying to deal with all the other
heartbreaks and lessons learned as a young adult.
By the time my Father died, I had the eyes of a forty year-old woman.
I sang at his funeral and didn't let my voice tremble.
For
the Mother I never really knew as a whole personality, for the Father I
so dearly loved and lost so early and under such terrible conditions,
for the poverty and the toil, for all of this I could certainly grieve
and give up, give way to tantrums of pain and guilt and every other
emotion that doesn't help.
After
all, doesn't every child look at their parents and think --- well, if
it happened to them, it will probably happen to me?
God
help me, I was made of sterner stuff. I did not give up. I did not let
my parents' misery become mine. I loved them to the best of my ability
while they lived and then, one drop at a time, I let them go.
Many
people try to face grief all at once and all alone; I advise against
that approach. Better to stand off at a respectful distance and let
grief come to you, a little bit here, a little bit there, in the quiet
moments, in the joyous moments.... just let it come, a drop here and a
drop there, until the reservoir of grief is gone, and only the memories
worth keeping remain.
Many
people get caught in emotional feedback loops, endlessly reliving
incidents that caused them pain and fear or shame or anger, or some
combination of all these combined, unable to break out of it. For many
of us, this kind of damage occurred when we were so young, it never
crossed our minds that we could break out of the misery and distance
ourselves from it. Look back on it as if it happened to someone else in
another lifetime.
And
whether we ever knew our parents or not, we are somehow aware that
these two primal relationships matter -- or were supposed to matter, and
so we are fascinated and often quietly troubled even as adults, by
unanswered questions. Why did.... how could she....and most haunting of
all --- was it my fault? Could I have changed it somehow?
The
answer, of course, is that no child bears the guilt for failed
parent-child relationships, and often, neither do the parents, who are
wrestling their own limitations and demons.
In
the end, if we manage to grow up physically healthy and mentally able,
we have to count ourselves lucky and learn to deal with the emotional
scars of growing up in a War Tribe Society, where nearly everyone has
been wounded and crippled by war, war, war, war, and more war.
And
we have to swallow the bitter fact that 95% of all this violence and
loss and degradation and bloodshed was for nothing more or less than the
rich man's profit, and yes, for most of us --- in the words of the
modern prophets, "I Ain't No Fortunate Son".
The
majority of our parents who were supposed to protect and nurture us,
couldn't protect and nurture themselves. They were the casualties of
war, whether or not they came home. They tried their best and one by
one they lost, so we, their children, observe this and go our own way to
the grave.
Or
do we learn to let it all go? Not in one great tidal wave of
disappointment, anger, or remorse -- but drop by drop, and bit by bit,
until all our wounds become our strength? Until we stand like great
fortresses
undaunted,
aware, and alive, not needing anyone to blame anymore, not needing to
apologize, not yearning for some other life or some other answer, but
content with the task before us: to build a new world.
This
month, visit with your parents, alive or dead. Bring them up in your
thoughts and memories. Look at them for all they are and all they
aren't.
Accept
them. Just accept. You don't have to like them or love them. You
don't have to agree or believe. Look at them and their lives with as
much objectivity as you can muster -- and let them go. Let them be. In
peace.
You
aren't doing this review for their sake, though it may lead you to see
things you never saw before. Adult compassion has a way of replacing
childhood grief, but even if that miracle doesn't come to you, you can
have peace. You can give yourself that gift this New Year-- and be free
as a bird that found its own wings.
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Citizens -- Plural
By Anna Von Reitz
The physically-defined organic States of the Union have only one kind of citizen --- a State Citizen.
State Citizens hold a unique allegiance to their State of the Union and no other government at all.
This
is to enable them to act in the best interests of their State with a
clear conscience and no conflict of interest. This, in turn, provides a
"check and balance" to Federal Subcontractor overreach.
These State Citizens are "Organic" Citizens --- Lawful Persons of the people who live in the Organic States of the Union.
All
the other kinds of citizens "inhabit" --on a temporary basis-- the
Non-Organic States of States and are "residents" with respect to our
States under the Residency Act.
The
other kinds of citizenry originally included United States Citizens
belonging to the original Confederation of States and the Federal
Republic --- please note: "United States Citizens".
Then,
also, British Territorial Citizens known as "U.S. Citizens" and
Municipal citizens of the United States (referenced in the 14th
Amendment of the USA Corporate Charter).
Here's what George Washington had to say about it:
To
quote George Washington on the subject: "To every description of
citizens, let praise be given, but let them persevere in their
affectionate vigilance over that precious depository of American
happiness, the Constitution of the United States. Let them cherish it,
too, for the sake of those who, from every clime, are daily seeking a
dwelling in our land."
****Remember
that "the" United States that Washington is referring to and 'the
Constitution of the United States' that is being referred to in popular
terms is the Federal Constitution of the Federal Republic (1787) from
which the Territorial and Municipal Constitutions derived.****
All
these citizens of different kinds and political statuses are supposed
to work together in common cause for their own good and the good of the
country as a whole.
We
can judge how far our intended system has been corrupted and declined
by the fact that so many people are clueless about their own political
status, whether they are "citizens" of any kind or not, and if so, which
kind of citizen are they?
****Remember
that "United States Citizens" upholding both the Confederation of
States and the Federal Republic ceased to function in 1860-61, so today we
are left with State Citizens, Territorial U.S. Citizens, and Municipal
citizens of the United States. The missing United States Citizen status
will return when and if Reconstruction is completed by the States.****
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Guidance for Assemblies
By Anna Von Reitz
Regarding Limitations of Vetting Committees and Coordinators:
A
Coordinator's job is to help people understand what the assembly
process requires, for example, help them understand what a lawful
election requires, and then help them achieve that goal.
The
Coordinator is the go-between the Assembly and the Federation, a "point
person" who goes back and forth between the Assembly and the Federation
to answer questions and get assistance. Their role is supportive and
educational, not political.
If
a Coordinator feels so strongly about an issue that they have to get in
the middle of it at an Assembly level as a member of the Assembly, then
they need to resign from the Coordinator position and go have at it.
In our system....
Any
candidate has a right to stand for an office if he or she is eligible
and the people of each State have the right to a free and open election
in which they and nobody else makes the choice to elect or not elect a
candidate.
A
Vetting Committee oversteps its bounds if and when it goes beyond
evaluating eligibility of The Candidate —- for example, a Vetting
Committee decides they don't like a candidate's attitude or personality,
and they disqualify him though he meets all the factual eligibility
requirements.
What
next? We could have a Vetting Committee that doesn’t like black
candidates or Hindu candidates or female candidates and everyone thinks
it’s okay for them to disqualify otherwise eligible candidates based on
their own likes and dislikes?
If we sink to that, what’s the point in having elections?
If
a Vetting Committee prevents an eligible candidate from getting on the
ballot, simply because they as a group don't like him, the Electorate
gets short-changed. You, the Electors, don't get to see all the
choices.
That’s
not the American Way. That’s the CCP and Politburo and DNC and RNC way
of doing things. They select and you elect from among their
pre-selected choices.
We present all eligible candidates to the Electorate and the Electors choose.
Put another way—-
There
is a big difference between the factual determination of eligibility
for office and the subjective choice of who is or is not desirable or
suitable for an office.
A Vetting Committee can determine the facts that establish eligibility.
It takes an Electorate to determine suitability.
Moving on.... about American State Nationals (ASN's) who are federally licensed or employed....
People
who are licensed (doctors, nurses, dentists, real estate agents, etc.)
and people who work directly for incorporated County, State, or Federal
departments and agencies, as well as non-retired military personnel, are
considered to be Dual Citizens by the Federales, and "Nationals" by
us.
In the original State system they are only allowed to vote on in-State issues.
As
you are establishing your Courts it is important to elect State
Citizens as Justices, Clerks, and Sheriffs, so that they can address
both in-State and international subject matter.
Then,
from your Statewide Jury Pool, you select juries to consider in-State
issues from among all eligible jurors, and juries to consider
International issues (between your State and other States of the Union
or foreign countries) from among all eligible State Citizens.
You
should be aware of those who carry Dual Citizenship and have open talks
with them about the possibility that there will be a conflict of
interest between their Federal Licensor/Employer and the good of the
State.
The
role of the Assembly in such a situation is to uphold the State's
rights and prerogatives, so as to check and balance Federal overreach.
Each
National in Dual Citizenship status needs to think about that and agree
that in the event of such a conflict of interest their part as a member
of the State Assembly is to uphold State's rights.
If
such a conflict of interest becomes acute and a Dual Citizen is forced
to choose between their job or their licensed status and loyalty to the
State, then each faces a hard decision, but it is one that must be
honestly addressed and it involves quitting either the job and/or the
license, or quitting involvement in the State Assembly regarding that
issue.
It
is a matter of personal honor as well as Constitutional principle to
uphold Checks and Balances whenever possible, and if it is not possible,
to withdraw and do no harm to the State.
Remember
that the States are the only truly sovereign government entities
present and all else derives from the States of the Union, including the
Federal Government. Preserving the States and their rights means
preserving the security and rights guaranteed to Americans from every
walk of life and political persuasion.
So,
whether you are free to act as a State Citizen, or you act as a British
Territorial U.S. Citizen or as a Municipal citizen of the United
States, all are first and best served by protecting the interests of the
State at all costs.
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