6 Brutal Lies You Have To Stop Telling Yourself In Order To Get Your Shit Together
By
Mark DeNicola
from Collective Evolution
Mark DeNicola
from Collective Evolution In Brief
- The Facts:We all tell lies, even if it isn't to others, we might lie to ourselves. This can be one thing that holds us back in many ways.
- Reflect On:Are you telling yourself any of these common lies? Even if they are things you believe, they are still not true. What steps can you take to begin letting go of these untruths?
We’re all liars.
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Yes, even
if you pride yourself on your honesty, I know with absolute confidence
that there is a metaphorical lying bone within you, and it’s likely a
lot bigger than you think.
You may
not lie to others, but you most certainly lie to yourself. But don’t
worry — we all do it, myself included, and that’s why I’ve put together a
list of six of the most common lies we tend to tell ourselves and the
consequences that come along with believing them.
Keep in
mind that the purpose behind this article is not to make you feel
dishonest, but to instead help you realize some of the things you may
unnecessarily believe, giving you an opportunity to change it and
hopefully improve your life.
Here are the six lies we love to tell ourselves, in both video and written form:
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1. I Was Born That Way
When used
to express pride for a particular character trait, talent, or way of
being that you embody, the belief that you were born that way can be a
healthy one to have. But the usage that I’m referring to is the refusal
to be open to a presented change, or the justification of a particular
behaviour, simply because this is how you believe that you have always
been.
Even if
you have maintained certain beliefs for an extended period of time,
you’re also changing, learning, and growing every single day, so stop
holding so firmly onto what you think represents you. I’m not suggesting
you make a complete 180 on your way of being; I am simply encouraging
you to remain open-minded to change.
Consequences: Close-mindedness, excessive stubbornness, and the risk of living your life in a particularly small comfort zone.
2. It’s a Dog-Eat-Dog World
While we
may not use this particular lingo, what it represents is the belief that
everyone is inherently selfish and as a result is always out to get
you. In the business world in particular, there may be a plethora of
examples to support this belief, but there are just as many, if not
more, to suggest the opposite.
I’m not
suggesting that you instead openly trust everyone and act recklessly,
but rather that you don’t allow this belief to make you close yourself
off to others and feel like you need to do everything on your own. There
are many people in this world who not only love you, but would also
love to see you and your ideas thrive. Approach decisions from a
balanced perspective rather than one steeped in the belief that everyone
is trying to screw you over.
Consequences: Untrusting, loneliness, and rudeness as a way of guarding yourself against perceived enemies.
3. You Can’t Change the World
Before you
overreact, I’m not suggesting that we can all change the world’s way of
being on a particular matter single-handedly. But I am referring to the
excessive number of times that so many us shut down creative ideas or
don’t pursue and/or partake in projects to help the world simply because
we feel powerless.
Yes, we
are each a tiny fish in a big sea, but so were some of the most
influential figures in history. Don’t worry — I’m not expecting you to
immediately get up on your soapbox and start screaming in support of
your favourite cause, but I am expecting you to realize that you always
have the power to change your perspective toward the world, which in
essence does change the world, since your perspective is the only one
you know.
Consequences: Laziness, disempowerment, and the murder of countless wonderful ideas.
4. I’ll Start Tomorrow/Next Week/Next Month
This one
certainly requires the least explanation and is also the one that we are
all likely guilty of believing the most. Whether it be a dietary
change, a lifestyle overhaul, or even just a simple task that has helped
to populate our daily to-do list for months, we love putting things off
for another day.
While it’s
unrealistic to expect ourselves to accomplish everything we’d like to
do in a single calendar day, the problem arises when we keep putting
certain things off for the perpetual tomorrow. You’ll never be younger
or more capable of doing whatever it is that you keep putting off than
you are today, so start reinstating the belief that you should take
action now!
Consequences: Unhealthy habits maintained and a lack of drive.
5. I’m Going to Look Stupid If __________
If
everything we did involved nobody else and would never be seen by
anyone, we’d all be amazing at acting on our intuition and being
ourselves. But instead, thanks in large part to the internet, things
have gone in the opposite direction and our lives have never been more
on display.
The result
is that we let self-consciousness filter our decision-making and hold
us back from being ourselves out of a fear of being ridiculed. If doing
something is truly important to you, finding the courage to do it may
seem difficult, but it’s far easier than living the rest of your life
sheltered in fear of judgement.
Consequences: Overthought, giving your power to others, and not being your true self.
6. It’s Too Late
If only you had realized this earlier.
You are past your prime.
There is no point now.
The next generation will have to take care of it.
No
matter how you word it or how old you are, we all seemingly love to put
certain things in our mental waste basket based on the simple belief
that our time to do it has already passed. While this may be the case
with certain age-restricted accomplishments, most of what we cast aside
can still be done at the ripe old age of whatever you currently are.
The
world is filled with example of late bloomers who have accomplished so
much in this world, so stop writing yourself off and go after your
dreams!
Consequences: Pessimism and regret.
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